Following her recent divorce from Simon Guobadia, Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Williams is pressing pause on romance — choosing instead to focus on healing and rediscovering herself.
In a candid interview with People, the 44-year-old reality star opened up about the emotional aftermath of her split and why she’s decided to remain single for the foreseeable future.
“It’s lonely. I can’t connect with other men,” she shared. “You would think I’m dating already and stuff, right? People try to introduce me. But it’s just … when it’s not the same, it’s not the same.”
“I’m Doing It Different This Time”
Porsha, who shares six-year-old daughter Pilar with ex-fiancé Dennis McKinley, says she’s determined not to repeat past mistakes. Instead of rushing into another relationship, she’s choosing to rebuild her sense of self.
“I’m going to do it different this time. I’m going to be alone until I’m whole. And then when I’m whole, then I will open myself back up so I don’t make the same mistake again.”
From People Pleaser to Self-Possessed
Reflecting on her personal growth, Porsha admitted that for much of her life she sought validation from others — whether it was men or fans on social media.
“I used to only see myself through men’s eyes, and that’s why I went through a lot of abuse with men in my twenties,” she said.
“When I got on reality TV, for the first three years, I only saw myself through what the fans would say in the comments. I was like a walking culmination of what the comments thought.”
Now, she’s learning to let go of public opinion and stand firm in her identity.
“I could give zero you-know-whats. I’m my own person. I took charge of my life, financially, in my relationships — everything. I’m really confident now.”
Still, the end of her marriage has shaken her.
“Something like this, it shakes your confidence, you know? Because you work so hard and you think everything is going one way and when it doesn’t work out, it’s disappointing.”
Choosing Wholeness Over Rebound
Unlike past heartbreaks, Porsha is facing this chapter head-on — no distractions, no rebound flings, no numbing the pain.
“I can’t just feel it with someone else. I can’t just get underneath someone else and feel it. I can’t just drink it away like I have in my past,” she admitted.
“It’s a rough road, healing this way. It’s dry — on every level of being dry. But it’s needed.”
